By Barb Scala
Taking up space is important to me because I’ve been told I’m, “too much,” in one way or another my entire life until almost 2 years ago.
My mother used to tell me, “you require too much attention.” My father used to say, “you run your mouth too much.” My ex-husband used to say I was too much everything, and not in a good way.
I was verbally and emotionally abused my entire life.
Something in the back of my head always told me something wasn’t right.
That I was just fine. That it was the people I was surrounded with who were wrong. Then I switched careers. I went from a profession that was punitive in nature to a profession where people were upbeat, positive, and forward thinking. I started realizing that not everybody was so negative and critical of me. It was about 4 years later that I worked up the strength to leave my toxic spouse.
A very short time into my new career I also met an amazing young woman who introduced me to even more positive up-beat people. I remember being so impressed with how together she seemed to be and how confident in herself she was. She brought me into her world and has been a very important part of my life ever since. (Thank you Devan).
Now that I have decided to go back to a version of my original career, it is even more important for me to stay involved with this group so I can remember all I’ve learned and stay focused on growth, positivity, and the fact that I’m a f…ing amazing woman who isn’t anything other than perfectly imperfect and JUST RIGHT.
